The consequences of domestic violence can cross generations and last a lifetime...shattering countless lives along the way.

But three area women who spoke to Liz Hayes for her series, 'In Pursuit of Happiness,' have a message for everyone in an abusive relationship.

Now, they're standing up to say no more.

Davene, Elizabeth and Erica are finally in control of their lives. They're freed from abusers and finished feeling intimidated, berated and alone.

All three turned to The Women's Community, a shelter dedicated to helping women in abusive situations.

And now they're surrounded by positive people.

"The people that I meet now, are different people, they're more loving and caring," said Davene, who grew up in an abusive household and consequently had several terriyfing relationships as an adult.

And Erica, who was locked in a closet for a year by her abuser, says her and her daughter are happy.

"It's just a whole different world for us now. Our life is just, in two months it's so different, and I am so happy that she is so happy."

Elizabeth says there are no stereotypes for victims or abusers. It can happen to anyone....and all to often does.

"This issue needs to be addressed. It's destroying our families."

It wasn't easy for Davene, Erica and Elizabeth to leave...but they found the courage, strength and self-love to make sure they did. They hope others will do the same.

"Make a plan, before you get out have at least a safety plan. Carry a cell phone at all times, so if you need to call 911 you can," suggests Elizabeth.

"Reach out to somebody. There is somebody out there, you can reach out to, or get out and go to the Women's Community, go to the authorities and stay somewhere safe," Erica said.

Davene recommends getting ready with a plan.

"I gave myself three months to get out of the relationship. I prepared myself."

They want women to believe in themselves and know they're not alone.

"Once they start believing in themselves and start loving themselves and believing and having faith that they deserve and they're worthy of love, I think that's the turning point," Davene said.

"You have to be strong and focus. And just better yourself because you are a good person, no matter what anybody says," said Erica.

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